More on BYU women’s rugby: an important post-script

I’ve been impressed by the number of postings from both fans as well as members of the BYU women’s rugby team. As I noted in my earlier comments, I do feel that it’s incumbent on the team that wants to be accomodated to make sure that they let the tournament directors know well in advance of any special provisions. In this case, the BYU team wanted to remind USA Rugby that, as in years past, they would prefer not to have to play a game on a Sunday.

According to the New York Times (April 16, 2010), USA Rugby had reassured BYU as late as March 11th that they would be accomodated in their request. Based upon that reassurance – -according to the blog postings I received – the BYU team relied upon that promise, only to find out as the tournament drew near that their scheduling request had somehow not been carried out.

By the time the error had been discovered, because the teams had purchased non-refundable plane tickets, it was too late to change the tournament schedule. In other words, the fault in this particular case certainly seems to rest with the USA Rugby staff — not with the BYU team.

That is, as per my blog from yesterday, the BYU team DID do all the right things. They went out of their way well in advance to insure that their scheduling needs would be granted, and once they were told their request would be granted, they made their flight plans.

I haven’t heard or seen any kind of response from USA Rugby and in fairness to them, maybe they do have an explanation. But if everything the BYU players says is true, it would seem — in my opinion — that USA Rugby owes the team a huge apology and ought to at least do something as a gesture of good faith to let the BYU athletes know that USA Rugby really messed up. I’m also very grateful that the BYU team let me know so quickly of their feelings on this matter. Thank you Cougars!

Religion and sports: What’s right in terms of making accomodations?

The curious case of the BYU women’s rugby team is a good place to start on this debate.

In short, the BYU team, which is a club sport, features 35 members, all of whom are Mormom. For Mormons, playing sporting events on Sundays is frowned upon, so when the BYU team advanced in the national playoffs this week to play Penn State on a Sunday, the BYU women decided to forfeit rather than advance in the tournament.

It was a dramatic call, to be sure. Turns out, though, that in years past, the BYU team had always been accomodated so that their games in the tourney were on Fridays and Saturdays. This year, though, due to a glitch at USA Rugby (the touranment organizer), by the time the scheduling error that forced BYU to play on a Sunday was found, it was too late to make any changes in the brackets.

Sure enough, when BYU defeated Wisconsin-Milwaukee 46-7 on Saturday in Florida, the team had already decided to forfeit their game on Sunday. For the seniors on that BYU team, that had to be a bittersweet decision.

Now, we all know about Sandy Koufax sitting out the first game of the World Series in 1965 because he wouldn’t play on Yom Kippur. And there have been lots of other stories about religious accomodations in sports. But in this case, after listening to the smart and lively calls that came into my show, I come away with two conclusions:

1. That if you’re an athletic director, coach, or parent, it’s up to you to be proactive BEFORE the season begins. Take a moment to look at the schedule, and see if there are any religious conflicts on tap (e.g. games or practices on any religious holidays) If there are, then nows the time to make alternative plans to the schedule — just so you can avoid what happened to the BYU rugby team.

2. Speaking of which. I know this may sound cruel, but in this case, it was really BYU’s fault for not doing their homework and checking the dates on the tournament. If they had, they would have seen early on that if they advanced through their bracket, they were slated to play on a Sunday.

Again, a little advance planning would have solved this issue, or at least given USA Rugby a chance to re-jigger the games. While accomodation is a good thing, it’s up to the school and team that wants to be accomodated to bring this issue up far in advance.

Backyard Sports: A Novel Concept that Focuses on Kids Having Fun Playing Sports

A few years ago, I was approached by Danny Bernstein, a listener of my show who was eager to launch a new kind of activity for kids who play sports. Specifically, Danny’s vision was to set up soccer, basketball, and other programs in which kids of all different ages and abilities could simply have a chance to pick up teams and play games.

That’s right. No parents, no refs, no uniforms, no league standings, no A or B teams. Just kids left to choose up teams and play.

So what happened? I mean, in a day and age where kids are driven to compete at the highest levels, specialize in sports at a very young age, have private coaches, and even go to specialized camps to focus on their sports, Backyard Sports has been a refreshing and resouding success.

As Danny said on my show yesterday (that’s right – I brought Danny back on the show again), the kids who come to play at Backyard are kids who currently play on travel teams, high school teams, and so on. The difference here is that when the kids play at Backyard, they’re free to simply enjoy themselves. No pressure to win. No parental pressure to appease.

For example, if a kid always play fullback on his travel team, at Backyard he can play forward. If a kid plays outfield in Little League, here he can try and pitch a few innnings. In other words, it’s fun as kids instinctively love to experiment and try different things out in sports.

But these days, parents and coaches tell me all the time that kids rarely have the luxury to try and experiment. There’s just too much pressure to keep doing what they do well, and if they ever veer off the path, there’s a coach to bring them back into line.

Thank goodness for Danny Bernstein. You should check out Backyard Sports – nothing like going back to the future.  

Sports Parenting 101: Be Wary of “Cookie Cutter” Sports Parenting Seminars

We all know that the world of sports parenting has changed dramatically since we were kids. The truth is – we continue to be in a state of transition and flux, and to that end, there are precious few guidelines when it comes to giving Moms and Dads real solid advice about what’s the next step in sports.

I’ve been involved in the world of sports parenting since the early 1990s, and I’m the first to admit that you should be wary of parenting experts who offer so-called “tried-and-true” tips on how to give your kid that extra competitive edge. I’m particularly wary of those programs that offer cookie-cutter seminars or programs where the presenters take a “one-size-fits-all” approach.  Unfortunately, that’s how those presenters are trained by their national corporate office, and as a result, they usually aren’t able to address the individual needs and concerns of a particular community.

If you feel that your sports group or league could benefit from having an expert come in and speak to your parents/coaches, take a moment or two to interview the presenter and see what kinds of advice they have in advance for the issues that you’re facing. Don’t be swayed by lots of fancy packaging. What you want is some real solutions to what truly plagues your young athletes.

When will the aluminum bat madness finally end?

Another tragic incident occurred in the San Francisco area about a week ago when a young HS pitcher was drilled in the head by a line drive off an opponent’s aluminum bat. The youngster suffered severe brain swelling, and was placed in a medically-controlled coma over a week ago. As of this posting, he was still in intensive care.

How many more of these cases do we have to deal with? Anybody who has ever spent any time around a baseball diamond will tell you that there’s a huge difference between a ball struck by an aluminum bat versus a ball off a wooden one. And yet, a number of major organizations, including Little League Baseball, claim that there’s no difference at all – that wood and aluminum are the same. What a disgrace.

Meanwhile, the lawsuits continue to pile up. The family of Brandon Patch, who died after being hit in the head by a line drive off a metal bat, won close to a million dollars when they took Louisville Slugger to court. Other legal cases from Oklahoma, New York State, and other places are beginning to crop up as well, with injured kids winning dollars from aluminum bat manufacturers.

As attorney Steve Kallas pointed out on my show, this situation is becoming analogous to the tobacco cases over the last two decades where cigarette companies denied that smoking was bad for one’s health, or that nicotine was addictive. We’re seeing the same kind of pattern with aluminum bats.

Parents and coaches – be forewarned. Baseball – -and softball — are better and safer games when played with wood bats.

Be wary of high-energy drinks!

Dr. Gary Wadler, who is perhaps the nation’s leading expert on performance enhancing substances when it comes to athletes, was my guest on Sunday, and we focused on the extremely high levels of caffeine which are contained in most of the highly-popular quick energy drinks these days.

A HS football player from Missouri came home from school a few weeks ago, and quaffed two 16-oz cans of something called NOS. The youngster, who was in perfect health, ended up in a coma for a few days, all because he ingested more than 500 mg of caffeine from those two NOS drinks.

Even worse, most sports parents think that when their kid drinks a can of Red Bull or NOS or other similar products that they’re giving themselves an edge over their competitors. The truth is – by ingesting such high levels of caffeine in a short period of time, they’re putting themselves at serious risk of seizures, strokes, and heart attacks.

Hard to believe but it’s true. Some coaches and school athletic directors now ban kids from drinking this stuff. Problem is, they’re available everywhere, kids think that it’s good for them, and there’s very little warning on the label about how potentially dangerous this can be.

Note to sports parents and coaches: a cup of coffee has about 100 mg of caffeine. A can of cola about 50 mg. A 16-oz serving of NOS has about 250 mg. Most medical experts say one should not consume more than 150 mg a day.

Do you really think you’re giving your kid an edge…or accidentally putting their health at risk?

Focusing on Coaching Concerns of the Future…

Tom DeCara (“Coach Tom”) was my guest this AM. I had asked him to think about how HS and youth level coaching is going to change in the years to come, and he was right on the money when he said that HS coaches and travel team coaches are going to eventually have to deal with a “fork in the road.”

That is, are the elite and highly talented athletes going to opt only for the travel teams….or are they going to remain and play with their school buddies on their local teams. As I pointed out, lots of athletes today say they play on their travel team “for real” – -meaning they take that very seriouly — and they play on their HS teams “for fun.”

That’s an odd approach, but it’s one that is becoming more apparent. Also, it was great to hear from Dave from Orange County (NY), who is the head of the NYS Basketball Assn, that these future coaching issues are finally being considered. There are clearly pro’s and con’s on both sides. On one hand, travel teams offer better competition than school teams, but for the most part, travel team coaches are not certified or have any obligation to be trained in their sport. School coaches, though, need to be certified as coaches and usually have training with CPR as well.

Problem is, for too many parents, this is always a very tough choice, and of course, for the student-athlete, this is still very competitive. I just wish I could offer more concrete suggestions on which is the best way to go. Sadly, there are no clear-cut answers.

Trashtalking, freedom of speech, and blogs and Facebook

This entire area of Facebook opinions and blog postings is really beginning to concern me.  Today’s generation of HS athletes are now learning how to trash-talk online, and even worse, it’s speading to adults who feel compelled to post anonynmous nasty comments on newspaper blogs.

As law professor Doug Abrams said on my show, the law just hasn’t caught up to this problem yet. But in the meantime, kids are getting booted out of school for posting threats on their Facebook pages (remember, we’re in the age of Columbine HS and ALL threats are taken seriously). And newspapers don’t often monitor or moderate the trash-talk that is posted on their blogs.

The combination of all these happenings puts athletes, coaches, administrators, and school boards in a very awkward spot as they are now forced to walk a very fine line between what constitutes freedom of speech under the first amendment of the US Constitution and what is totally unacceptable for young athletes. There just isn’t much in the way of guidance here, except common sense.

Most of the callers yesterday expressed similar concerns. It’s very, very hard for a parent to read horrible comments about their son or daughter online where the writer doesn’t even have the guts to post their own name.

Rick Peterson on youth pitching

I sure hope you had a chance to listen to Rick Peterson, the pitching coach of the Milwaukee Brewers, talk this past Sunday about kids and pitching. Peterson, who has devoted his lifetime to the inner workings of top pitchers, had all sorts of observations about pitching, including:

o Kids today are overused too much as pitchers, and that’s resulted in an avalanche number of arm surgeries at very young ages.

o Peterson warns that young pitchers need to learn mechanics only from those coaches who really know about the art of pitching.

o He warns that letting kids throw curve balls under the age of 15 can really ruin a youngster’s arm.

Best of all, if you want to find out more about Peterson’s insights and advice, go to his new website instructional venture, It’s a terrific concept.

Young athletes and the temptations of gambling

Every year I try to do at least one show about the growing epidemic of kids who get involved in betting, wagering, and gambling on sporting events. Whether it’s betting on the Super Bowl or playing online poker, too many kids are being drawn into the disease of gambling.

As Don from Gamblers Anonymous pointed out, kids today are exposed to all sorts of wagering. Most parents look the other way, until they begin to see charges on their credit cards, or cash missing from their wallets. Gambling is a real disease that destroys thousands of lives each year.

Here’s a suggestion from the heart: next time you sit down to watch a sporting event with your son or daughter, take five minutes and explain to him or her the potential dangers of gambling. Let them know that wagering, like alcoholism, can sometimes develop into a real addiction — an addiction that has the power to ruin their life.