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SPORTSMANSHIP: Here’s How to Stop Lopsided Scores in HS

Let me talk  — once again —  about lopsided scores in HS games. Like hazing, we just can’t seem to stop this trend. And I’m not sure why.

The most recent disgraceful  blowout was a HS girls semifinal playoff game in Cleveland where Gilmour Academy defeated Northeast Ohio Prep 108 to 1.

That’s right 108-1.

Every basketball season we hear and read about lopsided scores. They just never seem to go away. But why is that?

The truth is, the head coaches of both teams absolutely hate these kinds of games. The losing coach hates them for a variety of reasons, including the public humiliation of his or her squad. What does a coach say to a team that just lost by 50 or 70 points or more?

For the winning coach, he or she knows that such a lopsided affair is going to result in a lot of questions as to how they allowed the score to get out of hand, that the coach is seen as a discompassionate jerk who allowed his or her team to run up the score. Plus the coach runs the risk of so angering the losing team that a brawl or fisticuffs might ensue. And there’s always the worry of a player getting injured in what has become a meaningless romp.

It seems to me that EVERY coach should know, in advance, how to handle these kinds of games. That is, if it becomes clear early on that the game is going to be a rout, it’s essential to substitute liberally. Everybody knows that. But more than that, if by halftime the score is out of control, then the two coaches and the refs should meet and discuss either stopping the game there, or making sure that the clock runs all the time in the second half.

In some states, but not all, mercy rules allow the clock to run in the second half. In this game in Ohio, there was no such rule in place.


In this particular game, the score was 72-1 at the half, so it wasn’t as though the final outcome was at risk. They should have ended the game at that point.

Another approach would be for the refs to take control and tell the two coaches at the half that the game is over. Trust me, nobody is going to protest that kind of decision. Why take the risk of someone getting hurt? Besides, the kids who are playing don’t want this nonsensical game to continue either.


Yes, I suppose some could make a case that playing in such a lopsided affair builds character for the losing team, but I just don’t buy that. The kids realize early on that they’re getting routed, and they just move on. They’re not interested in playing.

What’s the bottom line?

Coaches and refs….if you ever find yourself in a HS game where the margin of winning is 30-40 points at the half AND  in your judgment, the margin is only going to get worse, step up and be an adult and get together with the coaches, the AD’s, and make a decision at half-time to either end the game, or at least run the clock in the second half.

To me, that’s just the right thing to do.



DON’T “SHOULD” ON YOUR KIDS: Build Their Mental Toughness

By Dr. Rob Bell and Bill Parisi

Reviewed by Rick Wolff

This delightful sports parenting – and coaching – guide features a most unusual title, which is clearly intended to motivate Moms and Dads to try and think twice before putting their own personal expectations onto their kids who play sports.

Adapted from one of the earlier chapters in the book, the authors pinpoint some of the daily interactions that sports parents have with their kids before the youngster goes into action:

“Alex, you shouldn’t be nervous.”

“Dwayne, you shouldn’t make so many mistakes.”

You get the idea. Any well-meaning sports parent who has exposed to their 10-year-old to a post-game analysis on the drive home from a game will immediately recognize what Dr. Bell and Mr. Parisi are alluding to in this chapter.

Of course, most sports parents feel it’s their obligation to lay these “shoulds” on their kids, especially when the game just finished and the action is still fresh in one’s mind and the parents are driving their son or daughter to their next event. Problem is, this kind of parental grilling only ends up alienating the youngster from the sport. It does not motivate them to play harder or better.

The rest of the chapters in the book offer timely and other pertinent parenting and coaching insights as well, including advice on specializing in one sport, dealing with pre-game jitters, coping with adversity, keeping calm during games, and other related topics. The authors do a fine job in peppering their book with case studies of young athletes as well as professional ballplayers, all of whom have experienced the thrill of victory as well as the agony of defeat on a personal level. It makes for compelling reading.

Overall, because the chapters are short, this is a fast-paced and entertaining read that adds real insight into the library of sports parenting and coaching manuals.  I do think that we are gaining ground in educating sports parents and coaches about the intricacies in how we communicate with our kids who are developing athletes, and Bell and Parisi have written an excellent manual that every Mom, Dad, and coach ought to read before they start a conversation with their aspiring youngster. In other words, Mom and Dad, think twice before you lay a “should” on your athlete.


Dr. Rob Bell is a long-time sports psychology coach who has worked with top athletes as well as with corporate employees. For more information, his website is

Bill Parisi is well-known for his highly popular Parisi Speed School outlets throughout the country. A former NCAA All-American in track and field, Parisi qualified for the 1988 Olympic trials in the javelin throw. Check out

DON’T “SHOULD” ON YOUR KIDS is available on Amazon. 152 pages, $18.

LEGAL CONCERNS: Athletes from Outside the School District Pay Tuition Fees to Transfer in and Play Right Away: And It’s All Legal

I have covered a lot of unusual developments in amateur sports over the years, but this one really made me sit back and think.

Suppose I told you that in the state of NJ, there are a bunch of talented HS basketball players who decided to transfer from their current HS to a different school district, then enroll in that school, and then play on the basketball team right away.

Sound inviting? All you need to do is pay that new school district’s individual student’s tuition fee – a fee which is routinely thousands of dollars less expensive than a comparable parochial or private school in that area of NJ.

Heck, some public high schools in NJ which have terrific academics and athletics, who I guess are looking for more students, even advertise this opportunity on their website!

Let me be more specific.

Point Beach HS in central NJ is a very small public HS with only 400 kids in the entire HS. Yet over the last few years, their boys’ basketball team has produced numerous Div I players….big kids who are 6’7, 6’8, 6’9  or so. So you must be thinking, “Wow, they must have great drinking water in Point Beach to produce basketball players who are so tall and talented.”

But the truth is, the star basketball players at Point Beach don’t necessarily live there. Many of them reside elsewhere, but their parents pay an annual tuition fee of $7,700 a year so that their son can go to Point Beach HS and play on the boys’ basketball team.

In recent years, Point Beach basketball has suddenly become a launching pad for Division I players. Kids have gone to ND, Iowa, Rhode Island, Florida Atlantic, and so on. Only one of those Div I players actually grew up in town in Point Beach. The rest are all imports.

What about the local kids who DO live in that school district and who have grown up hoping to play for the HS varsity team? Well, the harsh reality is that most of them get to HS and then realize that they have no chance of getting much playing time on the varsity team.

The long-time parents in the town are understandably outraged; after all, their kids’ dreams of playing HS hoops are crushed by these out-of-towners. But here’s the kicker: this is all perfectly legal.


Suppose this happened to your son or daughter in your local HS? They work hard and finally get a chance to try out for the varsity team, only to see on the first day a bunch of new kids who are bigger and stronger and who are also trying out? The head coach knows that at the varsity level, it’s about winning. And so, he goes with the best players, even if they are new to the school district. Case closed.

As some of my callers said this AM, “There are no guarantees in HS sports. Just because you think you have a good shot at being a starter, there’s no guarantee of that – especially if some new kids enroll.”

Matt Stanmyre is a sports writer with NJ Advance Media and broke this story a couple of weeks, and the response have been strong. Some commiserate with the local kids and their parents, and voice outrage about these kids coming into school. Others say that’s just another example of how youth sports and priorities have changed in recent years.

Others wonder how in the world these Div-I prospects end up at such a small HS.Rumors swirl as to whether Nick Catania, the talented head coach at Point Beach, is recruiting these top athletes on the sly. According to sportswriter Stanmyre, Catania vehemently denies all of this, and says these players simply find him and that the small school — which has top academics — suits their needs. Regardless, there is no evidence that Coach Catania is recruiting. But clearly the word has gotten out.


To attend Point Beach HS as an out of district student, the annual tuition is $7,700. That’s still a lot of cash, but it’s a lot less than going to a top parochial school in NJ where the tuition is $16,000 a year. And private schools can run $30,000 or more a year.

Furthermore, Point Beach is not the public school that allows this. There are others,  good ones like Northern Highlands HS in northern NJ, where the application form to enroll is on the school’s website. The tuition fee at Northern Highlands runs about $13,400 a year.

Matt also told me there’s a public HS called Eastern Regional HS in southern NJ which is renowned for its field hockey program. Apparently, top HS field hockey players routinely enroll there as tuition transfers to play there.

I wonder how the other field hockey coaches who compete against Eastern Regional feel about a perennial powerhouse which basically allows top players to go to school there from anywhere in the state.

From the brief research that I have done, apparently it’s up to the individual school district to decide whether they want to allow HS students to transfer in by paying tuition. I know in New York State, where I live, some top high schools like Horace Greeley HS in Chappaqua and Bryam Hills in Armonk don’t allow transfers. Other schools, I have heard, do allow transfer athletes.

But if the school board decides not to allow this, then the issue becomes moot.


Meanwhile, there is legislation under way in the Sunshine State that goes one step further. A law is being proposed there that any HS student in Florida can attend any Florida HS he or she wants….and doesn’t have to pay a tuition fee. Plus you can play on the HS sport team right away.

Florida HS coaches are outraged. They see this move as bringing a sense of free agency to HS kids. That is, talented athletes will be tempted to jump to another high school for any number of reasons: better coaching, better facilities, better conduit to college coaches, and who knows, maybe some extra perks under the table.

Sounds hard to believe, but this is being considered in Florida as I write this. Such a move just sounds it could backfire in a big, big way.

LEGAL CONCERNS: Making Our Playing Fields Level for ALL Athletes

When Game Officials Overlook Youth Leaguers’ Cultural, Ethnic, or Religious Identities

 By Doug Abrams

When the Flagstaff (Ariz.) High School Eagles girls basketball team faced Greenway High School earlier this month, the Eagles wore their hair in traditional Navajo buns during pregame warmup. Flagstaff is near the Navajo reservation, a sizeable percentage of the student body are from the tribe, and the girls wore the buns to honor their heritage. Before tipoff, the referee prohibited the buns as a potential safety hazard because they were done with yarn. The girls complied and removed them.

Reuters reported that Flagstaff’s principal was “livid” at the referee’s decision, and that the Navajo Nation’s president called it “blatant discrimination.” The Arizona Interscholastic Association, which administers the state’s high school sports, said that the referee had applied the rules in good faith without intending an insult. But the Association apologized and announced that players may wear Navajo buns in future games. The Association has promised to continue exploring issues related to cultural sensitivity.

We have been down this road before. First a game official decides that a youth player, coach, or team may not participate while wearing a cultural, ethnic, or religious symbol, or while speaking a language other than English. Without suggesting that anyone had ever played dirty, the official cites player safety or competitive parity. When the referee’s decision becomes public, the league or the sport’s national or local governing body rescinds the decision and apologizes.

Consider these prior incidents:

Lakeville, Massachusetts (2005)  

In the third inning of a Little League semifinal state tournament game, a Methuen (Mass.) assistant coach instructed his 14-year-old pitcher in Spanish to try to pick off a runner at second base.  The press reported that Methuen’s pitcher and catcher did not speak English fluently.

The umpire stopped the game, instructed the assistant coach to speak only English, and threatened to eject any player or coach he heard speaking Spanish. Methuen’s manager called the umpire’s instruction “sickening,” but he continued the game when the tournament director on the scene backed the umpire.

“It appears,” a Little League spokesman told the Associated Press afterwards, that “the umpire was concerned that the coach or manager may have been using a language other than English . . . to communicate potentially ‘illegal’ instructions to his players.” The umpire reportedly also thought that speaking a foreign language might give Methuen an unfair advantage.

Little League International, whose rule book comes in both English and Spanish, distanced itself from the umpire’s decision and instructed state officials to remove him from further games in the state tournament.

Cooper City, Florida (2012)

 Two referees ejected a volunteer youth soccer coach from a game for instructing some of his 14-18-year-old players in Spanish. The coach had refused to heed the refs’ instructions to speak only English.  The ejected coach later said that various referees had also tried to discourage players from speaking Spanish to one another during games. As in Lakeville a few years earlier, league officials disavowed any English-only rule within a few days.

Aurora, Colorado (2014)

The Overland High School Trailblazers opened their girls varsity soccer season short one player. The referees sidelined the Muslim player with a pre-game ruling that her hijab, a headscarf worn by Muslim women as a sign of modesty and devotion, created a “danger.”

Trailblazer coaches and teammates, and other voices on social media, criticized the ruling, and the Trailblazers stood with their sidelined teammate. Most were not Muslims, but all sent a powerful message by wearing hijabs in their next game two days later. The referees let them play, and no injuries were reported.

Central to American Life

I do not know the motives of the officials in Flagstaff or in any of the earlier games reported here. Game officials have a tough job and may deserve the benefit of the doubt in some cases, but reason remains for suspicion that prejudice may sometime play a role in expressed concerns for safety or competitive parity. It seems more than an uncomfortable coincidence that in matters of conscience or respect, reports of youth leaguers regulated by officials tend to involve members of cultural, ethnic, or religious minorities who seem “different.”

Incidents such as the ones described here should remind us that sports provides valuable opportunities for youngsters of various backgrounds to participate in mainstream national culture. Because sports remains central to American life, the impulse to include, rather than exclude, children marks youth leagues at their finest.

Seeking to induce children to disavow their heritage or religion, or to speak a language they have not yet mastered, serves no worthwhile purpose because arbitrarily excluding children from wholesome activities serves no worthwhile purpose. When youngsters from diverse cultures play hard and clean and contribute to the team, sports programs serve the community best by displaying tolerance and respect for individual differences. Tolerance includes rules applications that demonstrate respect without conferring competitive advantage or otherwise changing the essential character of the game or competition.

Youth sports incidents such as the one that arose earlier this month in Flagstaff may not happen often, but they happen. If these incidents have a silver lining, it is that suspected prejudice exposed to public view usually does not withstand the light of day.

These incidents suggest the wisdom of proactive measures. To the extent possible, league rules should address reasonably foreseeable sensitive issues that are likely to have particular impact on cultural, ethnic, or religious minorities. The Arizona Interscholastic Association promises to promises to pay closer attention to sensitivity issues, as it should. So should other leagues and governing bodies nationwide.

These issues are not always predictable. Referee certification classes and clinics, which generally are already required, should discuss tolerance and respect with game officials who will administer largely discretionary standards such as safety and competitive parity. Avoidable embarrassment, even followed by apology, serves no one in youth sports well.


Sources: Reuters, Arizona Basketball Team Wins Reversal of Navajo Hair Bun Ban,  (Feb. 5, 2016); Aurelio Moreno, Coach Speaks Spanish, Is Tossed: Cooper City Soccer League Says It Has No Such Rule, Sun-Sentinel (Fort Lauderdale, Fla.), Dec. 21, 2012;  Assoc. Press, Ump Bans Mass. Team From Speaking Spanish, USA Today, July 29, 2005; Mark Zeigler, Ump Out – Told Massachusetts Little Leaguers: English Only, San Diego Union-Tribune, July 30, 2005; Douglas E. Abrams, Youth Sports Heroes of the Month: Overland High School (Aurora, Colo.) Girls Soccer Team, (Mar. 31, 2014).

SPORTS PARENTING TRENDS: Celebrating 18 Years of The Sports Edge on WFAN

This morning’s radio show on WFAN marked the 18th anniversary of the Sports Edge being on the air. And I want to thank you all for your tremendous  support, and great and smart comments and questions over the years.

We may be the only major radio show in the nation that focuses exclusively on sports parenting issues. And with the “here today, gone tomorrow” mentality of sports shows, being on the air for close to 20 years is pretty special.

I first became involved in sports parenting when my own kids were just starting out in sports, and now, 18 years later, they are in their 20s and 30s, and I’m happy to say, they still love sports and still enjoy playing them.

I think, to me, that’s the ultimate bottom line. That is, that their original love and passion for sports has stayed with them, long after their competitive days in HS and college and, in my son’s case, pro ball. As a sports parent myself, I’m very proud that they continue to go out and play in hockey games, take batting practice, pick up a lax stick and practice some shots on goal, and so on.


Once upon a time in this country, back in the early 1990s, I was one of a handful of people who was talking about the changing landscape of sports parenting. As I recall, back then, there was Fred Engh and I believe Bob Bigelow was getting involved in sports parenting as well. But one thing was for sure – the field of sports parenting was a new frontier.

And that was no surprise. After all, up until the 1980s or so, it used to be that kids learned how to play sports by playing pick-up games with their buddies and peers on playgrounds, sandlots, and open fields. The older kids chose teams, nobody sat out, and if there were a dispute on a call, we argued for awhile, and then just did a do-over.

There was no need for refs or umpires… need for tryouts…no need for one’s parents to intervene.

As kids, we kept score for the individual game, and if the game had a lopsided score, we simply stopped and reshuffled the teams to make them more equal.

Nobody worried about individual stats….nobody worried about making All-League or All-State….nobody gave a thought to playing in college or in the pro’s. Did we dream about that stuff? Sure. But nobody took it seriously.

We just played….because it was fun to do.

But then things began to change, bit by bit.

Way back then, for example, there was this new concept of travel teams introduced. Now, nobody knew what travel teams were or how they would change youth sports, but like a spreading virus, once travel teams started, they grew and grew everywhere. Now you’d be hard pressed to find any town or community anywhere in the US where travel teams don’t exist.


Right around the time travel teams got going, it seemed that after years and years of parents always backing up the HS coaches on strategy, discipline and so forth, suddenly, there was a growing rash of parents interfering with their kid’s coaches.

There were parents arguing with coaches about their kid’s playing time. Parents were getting in the face of their kids’ coaches, complaining bitterly, even threatening lawsuits against the athletic director and school district if the Dad felt his kid had been slighted.

Formal HS Codes of Conduct began to pop up, so that AD’s and coaches could point to prescribed kinds of punishments. But for the most part, the Codes were soft and did not promote a sense of strict discipline. That’s because the parents didn’t want the schools to adopt a zero tolerance policy. If they did, it might mean that their own child might run afoul of the rules and get booted off the team instead of getting just a warning.

These, there have been growing discipline issues with social media abuse, such as Twitter, Facebook, sexting. Of course, these things didn’t exist 18 years ago, but they sure do now, and they cause sports parents to have tremendous anxiety when their kids are involved.

For years and years, LL baseball allowed pitchers to throw as many pitches as they wanted. It  wasn’t until Steve Kallas came on the Sports Edge and pointed out that especially in Williamsport, top young pitchers were throwing hundreds and hundreds of pitches in a week of tournament play. Finally,  LL woke up and realized that they had to change their rules and regulations on pitch counts.

And of course, LL still allows young pitchers to throw curves and sliders endlessly, even though Dr. James Andrews, who serves on their board of directors, still says that kids shouldn’t throw breaking balls until they’re old enough to shave.

Don’t even get me started about LL and aluminum baseball bats, which in my opinion, is still very dangerous. Anybody  — and I mean anybody – who has ever thrown batting practice to a kid with an aluminum bat knows instinctively that the ball comes off the bat faster – much faster than off of wood. LL, please stop telling me that’s not true.


Now, These days, there are growing numbers of other people who have become sports parenting advocates, and I applaud that. From coast to coast, there are sports parenting advocates who are blogging….posting columns….doing TED talks….writing books….and so on. It shows that the gospel we’ve been trying to spread on Sunday mornings for the last 18 years is finally beginning to have a real impact.

But I must confess that I do get something of a chuckle when they post a column about this “new phenomenon” of pushy parents…or a lack of sportsmanship….or kids quitting sports at a young age….or how travel teams are having a major impact on their kids….and so on – and they write these columns as though these kinds of incidents are totally new developments in our athletic society and that they are the first to pinpoint them.

But you and I know the truth…we’ve been taking about these issues on the air at WFAN for 18 years. And like yourself, I’ll be most interested to see how the world of sports parenting changes in the years to come. What will the next generation of sports parents do when it comes to their kids in sports? That, of course, is the ultimate question. And will fun still part of the experience?

Until then, my thanks to the loyal readers of Askcoachwolff, and for those of you who listen to The Sports Edge on WFAN Radio each Sunday. I also want to send a special of personal thanks to Doug Abrams and Steve Kallas, two brilliant attorneys who share my passion for doing the right thing for kids who play sports. It’s nice to know that there are wonderful people in this world like Doug and Steve.

Sports parenting continues to be a most challenging topic for all of us, and as noted, I think we have made some progress. I just hope we can make even more progress in the next 18 years.



TRENDS IN SPORTS: How HS Boys Basketball Has Changed over the Last 30 Years

There was a time in this country when making a HS varsity basketball team was a fairly simple process. That is, hopeful kids tried out for the team under the watchful eyes of the head coach and his staff, in the hope that one would impress enough with one’s skills, size, experience, and speed to make the squad.

There were no outside influencers at work: no AAU teams, no travel or club teams, no letters of recommendation from one’s private coaches.

Just work hard, and hope and pray that all the time you spent working on your skills over the previous summer and fall would pay off in a big way.

Of course, those simpler times are long gone, but I thought it would be a good starting in my discussion with long-time HS varsity basketball coach, Bill Thom, who after 33 years of coaching kids in hoops, is going to retire at the end of this season. In March, he’s going to be inducted in the NYS Basketball Hall of Fame.

Coach Thom certainly agreed with how things have changed dramatically in boys’ basketball. “It seems as though kids and their parents are always looking for that extra advantage, to move up their game to a higher level, whether it be playing all spring and summer on an AAU team, or hiring a private coach.”

The problem is, as Coach Thom pointed out, that while it’s fun to chase the dream in basketball, it’s important to keep a sense of reality in focus. “In all my years coaching at Croton,” he explained, “I have had several players gone to play Division II or Division III basketball, but not a one at the Division One level.”

And the truth is, that’s the reality for most HS players. After playing four years of HS ball, the bottom line is that very, very few go onto play in college.


But Coach Thom is one of those rare HS coaches who thinks proactively about making sure his players (and their parents) do stay on track. Key to his coaching philosophy are the following pointers:

Before the season begins, sit down with every kid on the team and define what you think their role is going to be on the team for the coming year.

It’s very important to get on the same page with each player before practice begins. That way, if the kid has different visions or expectations than you do, this is the right time to discuss them. Just make sure that you give the youngster a chance to voice his thoughts in case they are different from yours. And listen to him – don’t just blow him off.

Also, once you have defined his role e.g. “I want you to be our sixth man, to come off the bench and provide energy and instant offense,” just make sure that as the coach, you follow up on that promise. That is, if in the middle of a close contest, you decide to put another player into the game as your sixth man, understand that you’re going to have to explain your move to the player you promised but have now disappointed. Be careful!

Regarding kids hiring private coaches. “I always make sure I personally check out the private coaches, so I can give some real insight to the kids and their parents who want to hire them,” says Thom, “Otherwise, the kids might not get the right kind of instruction, and that can really backfire, plus be expensive.”


Coach Thom also sits down with his team before the season to map out playing time.

“I have the players write down on index cards what their goals are for the year, and in particular, how many minutes they expect to play in each game. Once I have all the cards, I add up all their expected playing minutes with all the minutes from the other team members, and then I show the entire team how there just aren’t enough minutes in a HS game to accommodate all of their wishes. I find that exercise with the cards tends to be very helpful in illustrating to the kids how very few minutes there are in a game.”

As for the continuing expansion and influence of AAU ball?

“Well, AAU basketball serves the needs well of the top, top Division I players,” says Thom, “but for all the other kids who play, I’m not so sure. I do hope, as do many of my coaching colleagues, that the NCAA will very soon intervene and begin to gain much greater control on AAU teams. That’s the great hope.”


DANGERS OF CONCUSSIONS: Parents Sue School District So Their Injured Son Can Play in Championship Game

Every so often, something happens in the course of amateur and youth sports that makes one pause….and makes one think about whether we as sports parent really do have our priorities in order.

Let ask you this: if your son, a HS football player, had been diagnosed with a possible concussion, would you allow him to go back and play in next week’s game?

Would it make any difference that the next game was for the state championship? That your son was the star running back on an undefeated team? That your son has assured you repeatedly that he’s absolutely fine?

I want you to think about that dilemma. Because we all know for a lot of parents, especially when it comes to the fuzzy world of concussions, this is a very, very difficult situation to find oneself in.

Now, let me give you more of the details>

Shawn Nieto is a top running back at Cleveland HS in Rio Rancho, NM. He’s a junior there. He’s also 5 foot 5, and weighs 140 pounds. That being said, he rushed for more than 900 yards this season and 18 TD’s.

A couple of weeks ago, in a state semifinal game, he was tackled hard, and there was direct and solid contact from a defensive player to Shawn’s helmet. As the play came to an end, everybody got up except Nieto. The Cleveland HS trainers ran onto the field and Shawn’s parents in the stands held their breath.

The trainers determined that Shawn was unconscious – that he blacked for 20-30 seconds before coming around. He was helped to his feet, and walked off under his own power to the sidelines.

Shawn says he never lost consciousness — that he had simply had the wind knocked out of him, and he was taking his time catching his breath.

On the sidelines, the team trainers administered a memory test, and Shawn correctly recalled two of the three words he was given. He also passed a balance test.  In other words, as far as he was concerned,he was ready to go.

But from the school’s perspective, especially in light of the new state laws regarding athletes and concussions, not only was Shawn prohibited from playing any more that day, but under New Mexico law, he now fell under the state mandated concussion protocol, which meant that he had to sit out for at least seven days before practicing or playing again.

That meant, of course, that Shawn would miss the state championship football game, which was to be played in 7 days.


Shawn was crushed. He insisted he was fine. He insisted that he didn’t suffer a concussion. He pointed out that after the semi-final game, he drove back with the team on a three-hour bus ride home, and then drove his car home from the school. Plus no headaches.

So, what did his parents do?

They of course sued the school district to let their son play in the championship game!

Among other preparations for their day in court, the family had their son see a doctor the very next day, who examined him and said he showed normal cognitive function.  The parents then took that medical evaluation, and got their day in court in front of a state district judge, just a day before the big game.

The judge heard the case, and read the doctor’s evaluation. Plus he could see for himself that Shawn wasn’t outwardly injured. Even more, the school district didn’t bother sending anyone to present their side of the case. That’s to understand why, but I guess as far as they were concerned, they were just following the law of New Mexico.

The judge made his decision. He lifted the ban on the kid playing.

The next day, Shawn Nieto suited up and was ready to play in Cleveland High’s state championship game and to defend their undefeated season.

But in the intervening hours, the physician who examined Shawn that week heard about the case, and she was flabbergasted. She wrote in a letter that the parents had never told her that Shawn had been ruled unconscious the week before. If she had known that crucial fact, the doctor claimed, she would have never cleared him to play!


And now, here’s the curious twist in this case.

Shawn’s coaches who clearly had been watching all of this  – said to Shawn that he hadn’t practiced all week, and as such,  decided not to start him, or for that matter, to play him. He got in the game on one play, a kickoff late in the 4th quarter. It would seem that all of his legal wrangling had really not gotten him to where he wanted to go.

Meanwhile, his team won 48-35. And in addition, Shawn’s replacement ran for 200 yards on the day and scored a touchdown.

Law professor Doug Abrams discussed this case at length on WFAN this morning, and made it clear that this lawsuit, which was decided in favor of the athlete, should not be viewed as a legal precedent for other parents to follow. It was hard to understand why the school district didn’t bother to even defend their actions, and because of that, the judge really didn’t have much but to allow the kid to play.

But Professor Abrams made it clear that it would be difficult to think that other Moms and Dads, eager for their son or daughter to play when told not to, could use this case as legal doctrine.

But more than that, both Doug and I salute the coaching staff at Cleveland HS for having the common sense to realize that yes, kids do get hurt playing sports, and especially with concussions in football, it’s always much smarter to be on the side of caution. Nieto might indeed have been perfectly fine to play in the next game, but the trainers felt he had been knocked cold. That was their professional opinion. And the state law made it clear that an athletes can not play again for another 7 days.

So the coaches can up with the right solution. Yes, Shawn Nieto could suit up for the game, but even though it was a championship game and he was the starting halfback, the coaches made the right call: they kept him out of the game except for one play. After all, just suppose Nieto had been hit again during that game, and had suffered a concussion again. Then, he would be looking at his HS career coming to an end (remember, he’s only a junior).

Bottom line? The coaches should be saluted for having the right approach here, even when the athlete and his parents may have lost their vision as to what’s the right and safe thing to do.


One of the more disturbing trends over the last 30 years in baseball is that we have become a nation obsessed with radar guns. There was once a time that only pro scouts had radar guns, and they varied in velocity; that is, some guns would project one speed for a pitcher, and another make of a radar gun would project a different speed. But no matter.

Suddenly, it seemed as if the only way a kid could be considered a prospect – either for pro ball or for college – is if he touched 90 mph on a radar gun. Suddenly, the kid’s won-loss record or ERA were tossed aside. Suddenly, it didn’t seem to matter whether the kid knew how to change speeds effectively or could throw strikes.

All that mattered, first and foremost, was whether he could throw hard. Real hard. It was as if throwing hard was the singular criterion to being a good pitcher. And the radar gun was right there to measure a kid’s velocity.

The result? An entire generation or two of talented pitchers who registered less than 90 mph were tossed to the side. Not enough speed for pro ball. Not enough speed to be our top pitcher in college.

It was stunning and disheartening. Kids who consistently won at every level they played were being told that they just didn’t have what was needed to get to the next level. And it was because of the radar gun.


Why? Because radar guns were invented, emphasis on velocity wasn’t so strong. This is why long-time major league stars like Whitey Ford, Jamie Moyer, Tom Glavine, and Greg Maddux got the chance to play pro ball and show their stuff. But it is safe to say that if those fellows were in HS or college today, they wouldn’t get a sniff from any scout.

As a result, for years people like my Dad, Hall of Fame sportscaster Bob Wolff, has decried the radar gun. Others have followed suit. But for the most part, these protests have fallen on deaf ears.

Enter John Smoltz into the picture. A recent entry into the Hall of Fame, Smoltz said last week at a youth sports symposium in Florida that the time had come to cut back on using radar guns, especially at the youth and amateur level. Yes, radar guns do serve a purpose at the professional level, said Smoltz, but little kids and high schools who try to throw at max speed all the time, this has led to all sorts of arm injuries and shattered dreams.

On my radio show this AM, Smoltz reiterated his feelings about the radar gun, and urged baseball coaches and parents to reflect on what has happened because of our national obsession with radar guns. Smoltz emphasized strongly that we really need to let kids go out and pitch without the added pressure of having to throw every pitch as hard they can. Otherwise, kids are getting hurt at younger and younger ages, and even worse, more and more kids are undergoing Tommy John surgery.

I pointed out that only about 75% of all Tommy John surgeries are successful, and Smoltz agreed. Most parents never seem to either know that or just assume that their kid will be one of the lucky ones.


What’s so sad about all of this is that it’s easily preventable. And maybe with John Smoltz’ support, the country will finally wake up. We could start with having LL Baseball in Williamsport stop posting the radar gun scores on 13-year-old kids who pitch in LL. From there, we could just make it a general rule that in all youth baseball games, radar guns are banned.

That would be a great start. And in an era where more and more kids are walking away from baseball, this would help stem that tide.


DANGERS OF HAZING: What Needs to Be Done to Prevent Such Attacks

Official Responses to Hazing

 By Doug Abrams

The Ooltewah (Tenn.) High School boys’ varsity basketball season is over. The school superintendent canceled the remainder of the schedule on January 6, after three older players were arrested for allegedly raping a 15-year-old freshman teammate in a cabin during the team’s overnight stay at a tournament in nearby Gatlinburg on December 22. The attack smacked of hazing, an abuse frequently discussed on and in other youth sports circles.

One of the three Ooltewah perpetrators allegedly stuck a pool cue up the victim’s rectum, causing severe lacerations that required a week’s hospitalization after emergency surgery to repair the colon and bladder. The other two perpetrators allegedly pinned the victim on a bed and, according to the victim, filmed the assault on a cell phone. According to WRCB-TV, the three alleged assailants (who are unnamed in the media so far because they are minors) face charges of aggravated rape and aggravated assault, both felonies.

The school superintendent said that he canceled the season to allow law enforcement’s investigation to proceed without disruption. But allegations quickly surfaced that Ooltewah’s basketball program has tolerated a culture of hazing and bullying marked by a pattern of assaults unremedied by coaches or other school authorities.

Absent from the Ooltewah news accounts are statements from other players’ parents complaining that canceling the team’s season unfairly stigmatizes their sons for the misconduct of a few. Such statements sometimes arise when hazing results in sanctioning an entire team, but the Ooltewah assault’s utter savagery may have turned the tables here. The Chattanooga Times Free Press reports say that the superintendent acted following mounting community anger directed at school authorities for inaction.

Prevention and Response

Rick Wolff has treated hazing issues several times on “The Sports Edge” and on I share his disgust with the practice and his calls for meaningful prevention efforts, including written anti-hazing policies backed by removal from the team or other stern punishment for violation. Brooke de Lench, executive director of the MomsTEAM Institute, also places obligations for prevention where they belong — on parents, and on coaches and other league officials.

In any field of endeavor, however, no prevention effort can prevent 100% of the targeted conduct. Just last month, Reuters wrote about a new research paper published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine. The researchers found that “hazing is still common in U.S. youth and collegiate sports,” including teams whose institutions presumably maintain written anti-hazing and anti-bullying policies.

Written policies and other prevention efforts have teeth only when authorities vigorously enforce them. Regardless of how events play out in Ooltewah, the remainder of this column provides some general thoughts about how parents, coaches, school authorities, and youth sports associations’ boards of directors should respond when hazing occurs.

When Hazing Happens

Without canceling the season, authorities may discipline the perpetrators while allowing the rest of the team to resume playing. Each case must be judged on its own merits. Are school or team authorities confident that they have correctly identified the perpetrators? Did the perpetrators comprise a sizeable percentage, or a majority, of the team? Was the rest of the team really innocent? Did other players try to cover up the hazing afterwards? Do the other players refuse to identify the perpetrators? What did one or more of the coaches or other authorities know?

Some hazing is so serious that canceling the season is the soundest response. (If the facts are as alleged, the Ooltewah incident would qualify.) Where one or more players ignore a written anti-hazing or anti-bullying policy, prevention efforts have obviously failed. A known culture of hazing and bullying, sustained over time, also demonstrates failure.

To stem existing patterns of abuse and to prevent future abuse, more dramatic official response may be necessary. Cancelling the season, publicized in the school or the media, may send players and their families a message more forcefully than suspending individual players from school or the team, or both, and letting the game schedule proceed.

If authorities cancel the season (or otherwise discipline the entire team) for the misconduct of a few, such collective discipline is consistent with the nature of team sports. Collective punishment may be advisable if the guilty players cannot be identified, or if (as discussed above) a dramatic sanction may seem in order.

One way or another, punishing the entire team is supportable because teams rise or fall as a unit. (Remember the old saying, that “there is no ‘I’ in ‘team.’”) If three members of a varsity basketball team combine for a last-second buzzer beater that wins the game, every player – including ones on the bench – share in the victory. If three members commit acts of hazing, every player may share in adverse consequences imposed after authorities do fact finding and consider various options.

Authorities should tread carefully, however, before sanctioning the entire team for the misconduct of a few unnamed perpetrators. For example, imposing team-wide consequences might tar the future reputations of innocent team members, who might remain subject to speculation from employers, colleges, and others about whether they participated in the wrongdoing.

In most states today, however, if the perpetrators are adjudicated in juvenile court for serious crimes such as aggravated rape or aggravated assault, their identities will become part of the public record. If perpetrators of a violent hazing are tried in adult court, their individual identities will also become publicly known.

Much or most hazing probably never reaches law enforcement or the media. In the absence of criminal or juvenile charges, the perpetrators may not remain anonymous for long because kids talk, even when the perpetrators do not film their assaults.


Sources:  Tenn. Code Annotated, sec. 39-13-502 (2015) (aggravated rape), sec. 39-13-102 (2015) (aggravated assault); Stephen Hargis and Kendi Anderson, Ooltewah Students Charged With Rape, Assault After Teammate Injured With Pool Cue, Chattanooga Times Free Press, Dec. 29, 2015; David Carroll, Supt. Smith Cancels Ooltewah Basketball Season (Jan. 6, 2016); Ooltewah High School Basketball Season Canceled: School Officials Under Gag Order, Chattanooga Times Free Press, Jan. 7, 2016; Brooke de Lench, Bullying: An Ongoing Problem In Youth Sports, (May 12, 2009, and 2013 update); Reuters, Hazing Still Common in Collegiate, Youth Sports (Dec. 24, 2015). (reporting on Alex B. Diamond et al., Qualitative Review of Hazing in Collegiate and School Sports: Consequences From a Lack of Culture, Knowledge and Responsiveness, British Journal of Sports Medicine (Dec. 2015)).



TRENDS: More on the Next Generation of Sports Parents

I had no idea that last Sunday’s “Sports Edge” show on what the Next Generation of Sports Parents would generate the response that it did.

In sum, we had by far and away more phone calls on WFAN and more hits on to this topic that any other topic that I’ve covered in the 18 years I’ve hosted the weekly radio show.

Think about that. More of a response than for shows about concussions…aluminum baseball bats… suffering Tommy John injuries….shows about Title IX issues….countless shows about friction between sports parents and their kids’ coaches. In short, it was astounding.

So I decided to revisit the topic this past Sunday on the show, and once again, received an onslaught of calls. Apparently, parents are concerned about what kind of legacy we are leaving for our kids who play competitive sports, and how they will raise their kids (our grandkids) when they become parents.

Again, the reaction was mixed. Among the calls that came in on the topic included these observations:

— That our kids today definitely have a sense of entitlement when it comes to competing in sports and in life. That our athletes don’t seem to react as strongly to losing and to adversity as we did when we were kids. That is, if a youngster gets cut from a team, or doesn’t get much playing time, then that’s okay with the kid. They accept it and merely move on.

Oh, as one caller observed, they may be disappointed, but they don’t make a personal campaign to improve their game.

Or, another said, that they expect Mom and Dad to step in and rectify the situation with the coach…in other words, kids feel entitled to success.

— One of the major themes is that our athletes don’t seem to have as much fun, or draw as much enjoyment, from playing sports as we did. Too many kids today look upon sports more as simply  a means to get ahead, perhaps into a better college, or to put something more on their resume.

— One Dad chimed in and said that he had raised and coached his son all the way to age 18 in sports, and now that the Dad was a grandfather with a 4-year-old son, he wasn’t sure he was psychologically prepared to go through the same process again. Too much work, too much time, too much effort.

Needless to say, these callers were not too optimistic about these kids becoming sports parents down the road.


— On the other hand, other callers said that today’s athletes are much more aware of fair play when it comes to sports than we were….that our athletes today are better trained when it comes to a sense of sportsmanship.

— Then others felt that kids today will have their kids shy away from playing competitive sports because they don’t want their children to have to suffer all the stress and anxiety of trying out for travel teams. Let’s face it – we expose our kids to a grueling sense of competition at early ages.

— Then there were some people emailed and said that tomorrow’s sports parents are going to be more competitive than we were, and will start to plan out in advance how their kids are going to be raised playing sports.

Like last week, it was noteworthy as to how insightful the calls were, but also noteworthy that they ranged all over the topic. There was one universal theme, though, and that was it was felt that our kids really don’t go out on their own (as we did) and play pick-up games just because they enjoy the experience – that it’s fun. It’s well accepted that kids today don’t go out and play. They almost need to have a formal practice or a formal game in ordr to participate. Very odd, but that is indeed a large part of the legacy we are leaving for them.

But one happy note. The very last caller said he had enjoyed watching his son play sports from the time the boy was very young, all the way through his HS and college career, and that the son still enjoyed playing sports. The Dad reported that he was absolutely delighted when, out of the blue, his son went to his Dad and thanked him sincerely for introducing him to his sport (soccer) and how much fun he, the son, had had from playing the sport.

It was the perfect way to end my show.